QUERY
Hi All,
Iam working as s/w engg in an MNC. Recently there has been issues in the work environment, one of my colleague just copy pasted my work and projected it to my manager. My Manager was impressed and handed over the entire work to him and he has got the credit. I escalated this issue to my PM also, but my PM says that it was unintentional. so now i dont trust my PM, because initially my PM knew that i had worked on it but i dont know how come he went so dumb and blind folded when that guy presented it. I really feel irritated whenever that guy talks to me, bcoz he is not good technically and he always copy pastes and projects it to every one and they appreciate him. I really dont know what to do, i dont feel like working hard anymore. Please advice me on this... Aslo one more stuff is : Most of my team mates including my Lead is jealous of me as they feel insecure bcoz of my technical knwoledge. I really dont understand why others are feeling insecure when iam working hard and technically trying to be good. These kind of stuff are really disturbing me a lot and most of the times think of switching to another job.... Would require some good inputs from experience persons and experts. Hope so experienced people would have gone through such problems in their career, so please suggest me on how to handle such kind of situations.

Thanks in advance..
Bindu

12th April 2009 From India , Bangalore

Hi Bindu,
What i see is that this things are common in every industry. Don't let your trade secrets slip off, instead wait for them to come to you with problems and request you for solution. wait as per situation, what happens is if one person is above others, team leader tries to cut him down so that he can save his and also his team members reputation and needlessly they need to work which makes them tough ride. so, be a smart worker, never say your plans with anyone unless it is required for your daily work.
Try to be with other team members and don't show that you are much more intelligent than them as this brings about insecurity among others that they also need to work. It is tough, but try meditation and read different management case studies for being resilient. Don't jump to conclusions after all sometimes what feel may also be wrong at times. Be smart in whatever you do. I would think that to be with a team is more important than anything else as it brings harmony. once it is settled, you can exhibit your true talent and skills.
regards
Hari kumar:-)
12th April 2009 From India , Hyderabad
Hi Bindu
I know you are sad.
Life does not come the way we want. There will be people like this every where.
People can steal your work but no body can steal your knowledge.
We should be friends with every body but save our work by not sharing more than necessary till you submit it to your senior. I at times save confidential items by changing files names frequently & changing passwords every few days.
Seniors are at times jealous because they know your intellegence will make them see you in their position sooner or later. Just be more tricky & take your PM's advice even if not needed. Anybody when made felt important enjoys & makes them happy as it satisfies their ego.
Every problem teaches us something which we can use in our life always.
Keep Smiling and create your path towards success. :-)
Rekha Bhave
13th April 2009 From India , Mumbai
Hi Hari and Rekha,
Thanks for your valuable suggestions. Actually even i dont share my work with others unless i complete it. But the situation was bit different, as my PM had assigned the work to me and one of my team mate. My team mate never contributed, i worked on it and found the issue and the solution and then mailed the document to my PM with this guy in loop ( bcoz he was involved by my PM). When i submitted, and had also intimated my PM, i dont know at that time why did my PM ignore me ( may be he was busy, or may be intentional not known). But when the same document was copy pasted and put into other format and presented by that guy after almost 10 days of time, my PM was really impressed... Now this clearly indicates that how dumb and blind folded could my PM be and i really wonder the guts that guy posess who actually copy pasted mine and presented the document in front of me.
Anyways as Rekha has suggested, its correct that we do learn lessons but it hurts a lot...

And one more stuff, In software field, whenever we complete some work we present it for review with our team members and then submit the work. So when others present their work for review its me who acutally finds the technical faults and give them suggestion. My lead never comments any thing on technical but he comments on Word documentation( which is a mere waste) and he feels insecure bcoz iam technically strong... Now its not my fault that my Lead and other team mates are techincally poor...Day by day problems are increasing... Some of them intentionally try to provoke me by making nasty comments and all.... I just dont understand, cant even escalate to my PM... I some times even dont feel like working under dumb people... Its like i need to focus more on handling team harmony rather concentrating on my technical work.. At the end of the day i just wanna do my stuff and rush home, but i dont know why few of them are really jealous of me... I try my level best to control my temper but its very difficult when some one actually makes some funny comments when iam doing my work correctly..

Thanks,
Bindu
14th April 2009 From India , Bangalore
Hi Bindu,
What i see is that this things are common in every industry. Don't let your trade secrets slip off, instead wait for them to come to you with problems and request you for solution. wait as per situation, what happens is if one person is above others, team leader tries to cut him down so that he can save his and also his team members reputation and needlessly they need to work which makes them tough ride. so, be a smart worker, never say your plans with anyone unless it is required for your daily work.
Try to be with other team members and don't show that you are much more intelligent than them as this brings about insecurity among others that they also need to work. It is tough, but try meditation and read different management case studies for being resilient. Don't jump to conclusions after all sometimes what feel may also be wrong at times. Be smart in whatever you do. I would think that to be with a team is more important than anything else as it brings harmony. once it is settled, you can exhibit your true talent and skills.
regards
Aseem Sheikh:smile:
15th April 2009 From India , Manipal
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16th April 2009 From India , Hyderabad
hi... if others are jealous about you... Congrats!... its is a clear indication that you are excelling and opportunities for you are endless ... i am going thru this for long long time ... just stay focused on projects and improving your skills... if you get an opportunity to help those who are jealous at work... DO IT ... they will change.... it has worked for me sometimes..
good luck !
21st May 2009 From India , Bangalore
Dear Bindhu
You are very lucky. I too have jealousy on you, because you are getting a better training on “ How to survive in corporate field “ without paying a single penny. Be positive and treat this experience in that manner . This will be along with you in your total life only it deference, depend on your reaction , Any possibility read ‘GEETHA’. You may get good management lesson.

Good luck
22nd May 2009 From India , Hyderabad
Hi Diru,
Thanks for your response. Yes, i need to feel good as iam excelling but due to jealousy they try to hurt me by their nonsense comments and by provoking me. I dont think so, "helping guys who are jealous" actually applies to my team members. I have tried it out, but things get worser, they just take help from me and project themselves that they have done everything and still they dont change, they always try to hurt or provoke me in some or the other way. But anyways if Manager and my lead are only not considering this and actually blaming me for getting anger n such things....there is no point in getting attached to my work..So i just do my work but iam not attached to my work...now if anyone tries to steal off my things, there is no point in complaining, its better to be quiet and make sure to make it confidential as possible.

Believe "Being Good to Bad people" never applies to IT for sure....There are varities of Pshycos in Software field

Thanks,
Bindu

Hey Shibu,
Excellent response from your side, yes you are right iam getting free training bcoz of these experiences.... Yep even iam taking it positively, so only even though some times i feel like changing my job, but still i wanna stick on to such an environment for experience purpose.....

Anyways some times we really cant control our emotions when some one intentionally blames me for no reason, so just couple of weeks back i lost my control and acutally gave back to one of the guys and asked him to be in his limits.. I think when some one speaks non-sense we have to give back some times.

Thanks... :icon1:
22nd May 2009 From India , Bangalore
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